All these posts later,
and I still haven't had a chance to go to med school. Lazy, lazy, lazy. Talk to
a professional before you decide a poet is a good healthy lifestyle role model
of any sort.
Also, thanks to all of
you who have commented, sent emails, posted, or otherwise been supportive of
these posts (and of me in general). Oh, and there might be a little swearing. Nowhere near enough, if you ask me.
If you'd like to start
at the beginning of the list, you can do so here. But here's 91 – 100:
91. I LEARNED TO
HONOR MY "GOOD" TIMES OF DAY.
I am terrible between 3 and 5 PM. I just am. If I'm going to
fall asleep during the day, that's when it's going to happen. So I don't try to
run during those times (I can cross-train if I need to, but those are seldom my
happiest workouts). If I'm going to get my best workout, I need to do it in the
morning or start sometime between 5 and 6 PM. That's just the way my particular
circadian rhythms seem to work—I could try to fight them if I wanted to, but
the workouts are much smoother if I honor my good times of day.
92. I LEARNED MY OWN
RHYTHMS.
I've talked about rhythms a bit in terms of things like
understanding the weird, non-linear progression of weight loss, but it applies
to other aspects of the process as well. There are a few days every month where
I am simply ravenous, all the time. Sometimes, I can finish an entire meal, be
fully hydrated, and still be painfully hungry. It's not, of course, actual
hunger—maybe I'm in a muscle-building phase, or losing fat, or maybe it's just
that something happens that crosses my hunger/satiety responses, but during
these periods, something is going on with my body that I don't totally
understand, and while it's uncomfortable, I've learned to go with it. I eat
well, I make sure I have plenty to drink, and I have reasonable snacks when I
just can't stand it anymore. I recognize the symptoms and know to ride it out.
Giving myself the time to understand my own body rhythms—or at least recognize
them—helps a lot.
93. I BECAME GRATEFUL
TO MY BODY, "FLAWED" AS IT WAS.
And is. This was another tough one. It's hard to look at
myself in the mirror and see the good. We're trained to see our faults—just one
glance at my Facebook feed gives me ads for reducing belly fat, removing hair,
buying some sort of garment or makeup or pill that will somehow make my
hideousness more socially acceptable. I read articles that claim to be reviews
of running clothes but actually talk about whether a specific pair of pants
might make my ass look too big and not about how the garment actually performs.
Again, it's too easy to focus on what I'm not instead of what I am.
There's a full-length mirror in our bathroom. For whatever
reason, I started looking into it right before I got into my post-workout
shower. It was not easy at first. I saw the wrinkles and the bulges and the
sags. But I began working on establishing gratitude to my body, for getting
through another run, for getting through another day, for getting stronger, for
staying uninjured. It's ridiculous and touchy-feely-self-helpy, and it is very,
very effective.
94. I BEGAN TO UNDERSTAND
THAT I COULD HAVE ANYTHING I WANTED.
Because I can. I just can't have everything I want. Because
no one can. The key is in figuring out what I want. If I want to run well, I
can't have eggs benedict for breakfast that day. That doesn’t mean I can never
have it again—it just means it doesn't fit into my plans for the day. If I want
eggs benedict for breakfast, I can't have a good run later. Again, that doesn't
mean I'll never run well again—it means I won't run well that day. Both options
are available to me, just not at the same time. On any given day, one will win
out over the other. I know, for example, that I can do a perfectly acceptable
walking workout if I've had eggs benedict several hours before—so maybe I just
switch a run day and walk day that week. Or maybe I've been eating out a lot
because we've had a bunch of events in the past couple of weeks. In that case,
I'll go with a lighter breakfast and a run. It's all available, and I can do
anything I want—just not everything I want.
95. I ALLOWED MYSELF
TO REDEFINE MYSELF AS AN ATHLETE.
This might be the toughest of all. I was not athletic in
school. The only teams where I was picked first were ones for which my size (I
got tall FAST, hitting my full height of almost 5'8" when I was about 11)
was an asset: red rover, tug of war. (Note to all phys. ed. teachers: you know
who the non-athletic kids are. Why the fuck don't you make them team captains
once in a while so that the same 3 or 4 kids don't always end up being picked
last? You asshats.)
Um…where was I? Oh, yeah. Athlete. It's a weird word for
me—certainly one I've never had applied to me by anyone else. And a lot of my
personality had been bound up in not being very good at sports. I don't have
terribly good eye/hand coordination. I'm not great under that kind of pressure
(although I'm fine under other kinds). I was never taught how to build myself
up to the point that learning how to push myself athletically might be fun—I
was just pushed to go faster, farther, more, whatever, always with the
implication that whatever I was doing simply wasn't good enough. That pushing
almost never included any versions of the words, "You can do it," and
never seemed to take into consideration where I was physically.
But I can run twelve miles. More, actually, since it's not
like I drop to the ground when those twelve are finished. I can hike hills like
nobody's business. I can do push-ups and crunches and lift heavy things. I have
the resting heart rate of an athlete. What else do I need to call myself an
athlete? It's not a label that I wear comfortably yet, but it's one that I wear
when I can.
96. I BECAME
SUPPORTIVE OF OTHER RUNNERS.
Runners might be the most supportive people I've ever met.
We're competitive, but largely with ourselves. The vast majority of people who
enter races don't do so because they think they'll win—they're looking for a
personal record, maybe, or they're doing it as part of their training for
another race, or entering racing gives them a reason to keep up with their
workouts. The running community is ah-may-zing, and I'm happy to be a part of
it, so when a running friend of mine is injured, I ask how she's doing. If
another posts to FB that he had a good run, I try to "like" it.
Seriously, it doesn't take a lot, but being supportive helps keep me positive,
and where's the downside to that?
97. I WRITE ABOUT IT.
Writing is how I process—how I come to understand myself and
the events happening around me. Everything I've learned about myself during the
past year and a quarter or so, I've learned through writing about it. You might
process things differently, but for me, it's not "real" until I can
write about it. Learning-through-writing applies to mourning, love, hatred,
fear—the whole gamut of human emotion—but it also applies to this…what?
transformation?...I've been making. What little understanding I have has come
through writing.
98. I SAY HELLO TO
PEOPLE I PASS ON MY RUNS.
Just to prove that I can, because the fact that I can speak
sometimes surprises the hell out of people, and that's fun. Also, it's
neighborly. The saying hi part, not the surprising the hell out of people part.
I once realized as I was approaching a runner that we were wearing the exact
same outfit. She gave me a little raised-fist-power-to-the-people salute (it
was in the days right after the Boston Marathon bombings). I said, "Nice
outfit." Then we were both gone in our opposite directions. It made me
happier than it had any right to. There's a kid who likes to hang out in his
yard and kick a ball around. We say hi every time I pass him (he started it—I
don't accost children, even when they're behind fences). I have no idea who he
is, but why not, right? And if someone doesn't return my greeting (this is,
after all, Massachusetts), what have I lost?
99. I TRY TO LET GO
OF WHAT I CAN'T CONTROL.
Like whether someone says hi to me. Or when, exactly, I drop
another five pounds. Or whether a given person respects what I'm doing. Or
whether a particular skirt fits yet or or or or or. I try my best to let all
that go. It goes against the entire nature of my being, but I'm much more
content when I can manage it.
100. I FORGET WHAT I
LOOK LIKE.
In multiple ways. I force myself to forget what I look like
when I run, because I'm sure it's not pretty. I also—despite looking into the
mirror to try on clothes or give myself pep talks or practice a little
gratitude—quite literally forget what I look like sometimes. A friend of mine
took a picture of me a week or so ago, and when she showed it to me, I said,
"Holy shit, am I really that skinny?" I'm not skinny (I'm on the cusp
of overweight and obese), but I couldn't recognize my own body in that picture
for a bit. I don't think of myself as being that size. When I was at my
heaviest, it was pictures that showed me how large I was—I had trouble
recognizing myself in those, as well. When I started losing weight, it was
pictures that showed me where I was. The day-to-day visuals, for whatever
reason, mean very little to me, but once in a while, I see a picture and it
reminds me of what I look like now. It's a little weird, but I'm figuring it
out. I'm figuring it all out.
You are mightay! Raaaaaarrr!
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